"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

Bill Weintraub

Bill Weintraub

"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."


"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

That's a quote from Steven Biko.

Biko was a South African anti-apartheid activist who was beaten to death by the police in 1977.

An article on about Biko says,

Undoubtedly the most articulate spokesperson for black South Africans during the early 1970s, he was able to pinpoint the crux of their experience at the time - their own feelings of inferiority and self-hate.

"feelings of inferiority and self-hate"

Very useful to an oppressor.

Those feelings turn the mind of the oppressed into a weapon -- the most potent weapon says Biko -- of the oppressor:

"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

I had reason, recently, to think of Biko and what he said, because I'd gotten some emails from a guy -- who I'll call "Joe."

And let me say at the outset that I know that Joe probably won't appreciate my using his emails, even though I'm using them completely anonymously, with any potentially identifying details deleted.

But -- my responsibility to Joe and to all the Men who visit our sites is to ensure that they understand both the roots and the consequences of their actions -- and of their inaction.

And that's what Biko was trying to do too.

Help the people of South Africa understand why they were responding to oppression -- as they were.

So -- Joe sent me a series of emails.

This was the first email:

Subject line: Thanks


I just want to say thanks and let you know how happy I am I found this site. Now I know there are other men that think the same way I do.


I wrote back to Joe, telling him he was no longer alone, encouraging him to read as deeply as possible in Warriors Speak, and sending him our standard Man2Man Alliance welcome letter, which has a bunch of links to various articles on our site.

Then I got this email:

Subject line: What a great site!!!!


Thanks for all the info you sent to me. I am a 39 year old man. I know I am gay because I've always felt attracted to guys; however I never was able to have intercourse. At one point I used a dildo; the only thing I experienced was pain no pleasure at all.

Almost all the guys I know are into anal sex. At one point I thought that maybe I was confused and I was not really gay; but after reading your site I found myself. Now I know what I am and what I have to look for.



So I wrote back to Joe, very supportively once again, and discussed the word intercourse and the word "gay" and the difference between sex as an activity and sex as a condition -- as you've all heard me do;

and then I asked for permission to post his emails -- with his email address --

explaining to him that that would help both him and his fellow Men.

This was Joe's response:

Hello Bill

Thanks again for all the info. Sorry for not answering before; I was very busy working. Your page is really great.

About posting; I am not so sure about it. To tell you the truth I would rather keep my privacy. I hope you understand.



Okay -- Joe said he wanted to keep his "privacy."

Sounds legit -- right?

But when guys say that to me, I always wonder, just how private are you dude?

Because, you know, if they write to me, it means they're on the internet looking at sites where men have sex with men.

And it's not illegal for men to have sex with men -- don't have that excuse anymore.

And very often if they're looking at those sites -- which are usually hook-up sites -- they're posting on those sites.

So how private can they really be?

So, wondering about how private Joe actually was, I googled his email address.

And found that he'd posted a couple times online about attending the get-togethers of a "gay male" nudist group.

So he's not real private about that.

He's not private about being into guys, which he would call "being gay" -- even though it's not;

and he's not private about nudity -- he says publically that he likes the idea of getting together with a bunch of naked gay-identified males.

Now, of course, he may not know that his email address is searchable or that his posts can be found in that way.

But most people nowadays do.

In any case, it's clear that he doesn't much worry about his internet privacy when it comes to "gay" nudist activities.

But that he feels he needs to be "private" about not being into anal.

Obviously what worries him is that his gay-identified "friends" will learn that he doesn't like anal and that he's into Frot.

And that's where Mr Biko comes in, and what he said:

"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

And which is something I've often told you:

The most powerful form of oppression is self-oppression.

Indeed, I made just that very point in my reply to a guy named Frank, whose post, Thank you so much for this site!!, went up on November 11, 2009 --

that is, less than a month ago.

In his intial letter to me, Frank had said that he'd tried to do anal with his first lover, "but found it unsatisfying, tedious, and sometimes painful."

Pretty good description, huh?

In his second letter, Frank said,

By the by, and in all fairness, I should point this out-the man I was in love with never forced me to do anything sexually that I wasn't comfortable with, but I felt I needed to please him, and try anal sex for his and my own sake.

To which I replied:


And while, Frank, I'm glad your partner didn't force you, it's one of the hallmarks of a dominant culture that it uses cultural messages and peer pressure to get people to, in effect, self-oppress.

So, while your partner wasn't forcing you, *you* felt that you "needed to please him, and try anal sex for his and my own sake."

And that's a true triumph of the dominant culture.

It persuades you to oppress yourself.

Doesn't require your bf to do it to you.

You do it to yourself.

All dominant cultures work that way.

I know that many guys have trouble with the idea of culture influencing sexual acts -- but it does.

And analism is a textbook case of a dominant culture.

Every letter I receive tells me so.

"analism is a textbook case of a dominant culture."

"Every letter I receive tells me so."

Indeed it does, indeed it does.

When I say something like that -- "Every letter I receive tells me so." -- it's because it's true.

And sure enough, Joe's letter tells me the very same thing.

A dominant culture persuades its subjects to SELF-oppress.

Steven Biko: "The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

The dominant culture uses the MIND OF THE OPPRESSED to enforce his own oppression.


Through, as we read, fostering "feelings of inferiority and self-hate."

That's how.

The buttfuck boyz and their painsex shitsex deathsex brigade proclaim 24/7/365 that if you don't do anal, you're immature and incomplete:

Psychologically damaged and not truly "gay."

Which leads to "feelings of inferiority and self-hate."

And you can see it in Joe.

He has no problem, apparently, with going to "gay male" nudist gatherings and displaying his wizened weenie and bared butt, bubble or otherwise.

At the sight of which, guys say to him, "You have a really nice ass, I'd really like to fuck you."

And don't you wish, guys, you had a dollar -- or, better yet, a hundred dollars -- for every time some half-brained would-be "top" had uttered that sweet little nothing in your ear?

I certainly do.

They're talking a lot these days about cap-and-trade and a carbon tax.

Maybe we could persuade the government to institute a buttfuck tax, which would effectively fine the buttboys every time they evinced a desire to be somewhere they shouldn't.

With the proceeds going to finance the Frot Movement of course.

So -- Joe hangs out at these gay nudist events, where he gets bombarded with "You have a really nice ass, I'd really like to fuck you."

He hears that over and over and over again.

And of course he has to smile and look pleased each time he hears it.

Because if he doesn't he'll be accused of that dreaded thought-crime, "not being into anal."

So -- each and every time someone says, I'd really like to fuck you, Joe has to look delighted -- as though the tedious old buttqueen had said something as witty and worthy as the great Oscar Wilde himself.

Even though, as Joe told me, the only thing he experiences with anal is "pain no pleasure at all."

Joe says he's 39.

Well, you do that for twenty years or so and sure enough, you end up with "feelings of inferiority and self-hate."

Feelings stuffed into your brain -- like some diseased dick stuffed into your ass -- by your very own "gay" "community."

Thank you, "gay" "community."

And when I and the Man2Man Alliance offer you a forum in which you can speak out in your own defense -- you're afraid to do it.

Like I said:

A dominant culture persuades its subjects to SELF-oppress.

Steven Biko: "The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

The dominant culture uses the MIND OF THE OPPRESSED to enforce his own oppression.

That's the bad news.

But guess what?

It's also the GOOD NEWS.

Because if a significant and indeed most "POTENT," to use the heroic Steven Biko's word, weapon of the oppressor is in YOUR mind --

YOU have the ability to throw it off.

Yes -- YOU.

YOU have the ability to get rid of it.


By simply removing it from your mind.

By changing your way of thinking.

By saying to yourself, I don't care what my "gay" shitsex femmy so-called friends may think, I'm going to post on that MAN2MAN Alliance FROT site anyway, because I care what I THINK.





It's healthier, it's safer, it's HOTTER, it's EQUAL and FREE and PHALLIC and MANLY and MASCULINE and it's what I LOVE TO DO.

And I'm going to say so wherever and whenever I feel like it.

Because I'm 39 and I've been oppressed by those buttboy bozos long enough.


That's not complicated.

And, it's something I've discussed many times over the years, including in a post in 2006 titled defeated in their own minds.

That's an important post.

You should read it: defeated in their own minds.

Because -- if you're not speaking out and you're not donating -- and the vast vast vast vast vast majority of you are doing neither -- you're defeated in your own mind.

And the oppressor has won.

You've lost.

The buttboyz have won.

You've lost.

Shit and filthsex have won.

You've lost.

Yet, and again, you have it in YOUR OWN POWER to change the situation.

Warrior Robert Loring: "Change the thinking, change the behavior."

Hero Steven Biko: "The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed."

Your mind -- at present -- is the most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor.

Which means that the oppressor owns your mind -- and YOU.

He's filled your mind with his disgusting buttfuck shit.

And you're just letting it sit there, a big pool of toxic waste in your brain, poisoning your life.

AND YET -- YOUR mind could be YOUR most potent weapon -- in your OWN LIBERATION.

In the liberation of your MANHOOD.

In the liberation of your MASCULINITY.

In the liberation of your LIFE.

When's it gonna happen?

Sometime in 2010?

Or 2020?

Or maybe in the next life?

It needs to happen NOW.

NW often writes about the testicles -- about how they motivate the Man to Fight.

The testicles, he says,

are THE source of masculinity and male aggression

He's right.

That is, of course, if you're a Man.

For most of you, however, your balls are just a source of sperm.

You jerk off once a day or once a week or whatever your schedule is, and then try to pretend that your balls aren't there.

But your balls are also the source, as NW says, of your Masculinity and your male aggression.

And each time you refuse to Fight for yourself -- by coming out as a MAN into FROT, by posting on our boards, by donating to our cause which you KNOW is JUST and in your OWN self-interest --

every time you refuse to do that or put it off till whenever -- your balls shrivel and shrink -- just a bit more.

Fact is, if you're a Man, your entire body was designed to Fight.

We are a sexually dimorphic species -- there are significant physical differences between Men and Women -- and Men are in general larger and more muscular than Women.

That's because MEN were meant to FIGHT.

That's why Fighters have such terrific bodies.

Because Fighting develops their bodies in the way that God and Nature intended.

When, by refusing to train in a Fight Sport, you neglect that essential aspect of your Masculinity, you do not just your body but your ENTIRE MANHOOD tremendous damage.

Just as, when you refuse to stand up for yourself in this little matter of Frot vs anal, you do your ENTIRE MANHOOD tremendous damage.

You let those feelings of inferiority and self-hate remain where they are, percolating away, poisoning and destroying your life.

So once again I ask,

When are you going to FIGHT BACK?

When's it gonna happen?

Sometime in 2010?

Or 2020?

Or maybe in the next life?

It needs to happen NOW.

NOW is the time.

NOW is your moment.



Bill Weintraub

December 7, 2009

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