An Essay


Robert Loring, Th.D., Ph.D.

It seems to me to be very apparent that the analists lose their masculinity rather quickly and forget that they are men not women. And it seems to me that the analists think the only sex possible with another man is through anal penetration. I personally think anal robs one not only of their manhood but also robs them of their dignity. I myself do not engage in anal and I myself am proud of my masculinity. To even have someone try to rob me of my masculinity is cause for war and battle.

In my readings and studies I came across an interesting term. That term is "Cymbrogi". It is an old Celtic term meaning "brothers of the heart." Those of us who are into frot and not into anal are Cymbrogi. Frot establishes a connection of brotherhood between two men while anal sex, in my opinion, does not. I know when I engage in frot that there is a high psychospiritual connection established with my partner. It goes beyond sex or sexual acts because there is some sort of spiritual connection established with my partner. This connection lasts far longer than the sex. This connection helps both of us maintain our masculinity. Frot enhances our masculinity, whereas, I think anal sex actually destroys a male's sense of masculinity.

To be Cymbrogi, brothers of the heart, is to have a male to male relationship. It involves a higher connection between two men both on a psychological and spiritual level. Masculinity is enhanced instead of diminished and both men become empowered by each other instead of disempowered. Loyalty is created. Loyalty to one's "brother of the heart" and the feelings and respect become mutually shared. I see and experience this "Cymbrogi" with men who are into frot but I don't see this at all with men who are into anal. In fact, what I do see among the analists is pretty much just the opposite.

Frot men are engaging in something that is ages old (read the male history on this website and then do your own research if you don't believe it). Frot men promote each others manhood and masculinity rather than try to destroy it. Frot men do not seek to depersonalize their partners nor to rob them or themselves of their human manly dignity. Frot is, therefore, not only healthy physically but, in my opinion, it is also healthy psychologically and spiritually. It promotes the man rather than destroys the man.

Every man needs a Cymbrogi, a "brother of the heart", a "male soul mate." Men have a natural instinct to be close to other men. Men also have a natural knowing that being close to other men also enhances one's own masculinity. Men want to establish physical, psychological, and spiritual connection with other men. If this connection leads to frottage then the connection is only strengthened because frot does not depersonalize as anal does. And, even if this Cymbrogi connection does not lead to frot the connection is still there as "brothers of the heart."

Modern society has done much towards promoting the destruction of masculinity. What is attempting to be created is a gender neutral society. When a man is robbed of his masculinity he becomes inwardly frustrated and a whole host of psychospiritual problems result. I think as men we should be proud of our masculinity and not be ashamed of it. I think as warriors we should fight against the attempts to rob us of our masculinity and not be ashamed of our manhood and maleness. We were born men and we should be men and frot is historically and traditionally a part of manhood. But, society at large and the analist s won't tell you any of this.

Find yourself a Cymbrogi, a "brother of the heart", and keep that relationship as one of equals. Enhance your and your partners masculinity and don't try to diminish it as the analists do. Stand up and fight as an honorable man and warrior against the BFD who insists we must engage in anal and become gender neutral. And most especially DO NOT be ashamed of your own manhood!! And, when you go looking for your Cymbrogi realize that "brothers of the heart" can be a million miles away from each other but that higher connection can still be established and maintained across great distances.

Robert Loring, Th.D., Ph.D.

April 5, 2004

Also by Robert Loring:

A Case of Rape

The Warrior God


A Call to All True WARRIORS!!

A Man's Word & Bond


Death of a Frot Brother

Finally A Home

Go Shirtless: In support of a brother!!

Jesus and the Truth

Straight8 Acting??

Warrior Christendom

The Warrior Ethos

Warriors and Freedom

We ARE Warriors

The Ultimate Defeat

In addition Robert has replies posted in many message threads, including these in Warriors Speak:


Why Warriors

a cockrub warrior all the way

never expressed feelings

culture culture culture

Death Before Dishonor


Ancient Greek reincarnate


brother to brother

I'm glad to meet a community of men

A Confirmation of Masculinity

Are some men naturally MACHO?

Can one man be faithful to another?

we were warriors at a time when boys now are like girls

BOYCOTT Brokeback Mountain

minefields of the mine

intercourse not outercourse

Society's Procrustean Bed

New to Frot

True Man2Man Love: A Warrior Credo


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